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How to Give People Advice

Once you’ve decided to offer advice, take some time to think about what you want to say. It can be just a minute, or, if the situation is serious, a few days.__



Take time to think.

Once you’ve decided to offer advice, take some time to think about what you want to say. It can be just a minute, or, if the situation is serious, a few days.__



Give concrete reasons for your advice.



Provide information to back up your comment.

When you give your advice, make sure that it is grounded in sound reasoning. This can be actual facts or you can draw on your own experience.



Be honest.



Make a collaborative plan.

Even though you are offering advice, remember that you are not actually the one making the decision. When you’re planning your words, make sure to figure out a way that you can collaborate with the other person. Don’t just tell them what to do.



Don’t be self-serving.

Make sure that your advice will actually help the other person. Always keep their best interests at the forefront of your mind. For example, if a coworker asks if they should quit, "don’t say "yes" just because you don’t want to compete with them for a promotion.



Help them think through options.

Instead of just telling someone what to do, try to empower them to make their own choices. Ask them to brainstorm some options with you. Not only will this help you better understand the problem, but it will give that person more ownership over their choices.



Compliment their judgment.

Try not to sound bossy or like a know-it-all. Share your opinion, but make it clear that you believe in their ability to make the final decision. This will help the person feel more confident.



Offer support.

Give your advice and follow it up with a supportive statement. You don’t want to pressure anyone into thinking they have to take your advice. Make sure they know that you support whatever choice they make.



Be sincere.

Speak from the heart. Make it clear that you care about the person. Use words that are honest and kind. For example, “This is a tough situation and I feel for you. I think it’s probably a good idea to put your dog down, because he is in pain. But I support you no matter what."



Avoid judgement.

Remember that whoever asked for your advice trusts you. Make sure that you don’t damage this trust by judging them. When you’re planning what to say, make sure that you use neutral, objective language.



Give advice when asked.

A good rule of thumb is that you should not offer unsolicited advice. If someone mentions a problem, it’s a pretty common instinct to jump in and offer some suggestions. However, that can make the person feel bad and could suggest that you don’t have faith in their judgement.



Ask for permission to give advice.

Sometimes you might feel compelled to offer advice, even when no one has asked for it. In this case, you should still ask if it’s okay to offer advice. Don’t just jump in and tell someone what to do without asking if they want to hear it. You don’t want to add more stress to their life.



Evaluate the request.

Even if someone asks for your advice, you shouldn’t always give it. If you know nothing about the situation or don’t have much information, you might consider saying nothing. You can offer support in other ways.



Take into account how well you know this person.

Before giving advice, consider who you are giving it to. Is it a casual acquaintance? If they ask for a recommendation for a good coffee shop, go ahead and give your opinion. If the issue is of a more personal nature, think twice.__

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